by Karrin
Learning to say “no” isn’t easy but it’s impossible to have a sense of purpose or identify unless until we do. Learning to say no can be a matter of life or death. The UNIFEM (United Nations Development Fund for Women) produced this PSA with Nicole Kidman as part of the Say NO to Violence Against Women campaign.
This short video clip is a clear example of people demonstrating how to say no to one of the most important issues in the world today. If you are not used to saying no in a confident manner watch this video and see how it's done.
Saying “no” is just as valuable a skill as saying “yes.” Being authentic is much more important than people pleasing. It can feel empowering to say “no.” If people do not value saying “no” it is only because they feel out of control with their own habits. When people feel out of control they want to say “yes” to others in order to feel good.
It takes courage to say “no” just like it takes wisdom to know what to say “yes” to. The value of saying “no” brings balance and purpose to life and gives us the freedom to express our highest potential. Life is full of choices for those who learn to say “yes” and “no” with confidence.
Dr. Charlotte DavisKasl in her book Women, Sex, and Addiction notes that "the strongest foundation for a primary relationship is self- knowledge and a commitment to following one’s inner truths. The ideal relationship is one in which two people care for each other as they follow their separate callings."
Relationships in which people always say “yes” do not last. The art of saying “no” is beautiful. People can say “no thanks,” “thanks for asking,” “no, thank you,” “not for me, thanks,” and other phrases in a sing-song voice that is just as uplifting as saying yes. Saying “no” can be poignant and elegant.
Learning to say “no” to others allows others to say “no” to us. When we know others can say “no” we know that when they say “yes” they do so out of choice or wholeheartedly and not out of guilt or obligation.
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